Dealing with family violence

Family violence affects people from all walks of life and can happen in many different ways and in all types of family relationships. If you are experiencing family violence, we're here to help.

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Family violence is behaviour by one family member to another family member, that is:
• physically or sexually abusive; or
• emotionally or psychologically abusive; or
• economically abusive, including withholding money for the necessities of life; or
• threatening or coercive; or
• in any other way controls or dominates the family member and causes that family member to feel fear for the safety or wellbeing of that family member or another person; or
• causes a child to hear or see or otherwise be exposed to the effect of the behaviour referred to above.

Our supportive Family Law team can provide you with the legal advice, support and guidance you need to help you protect yourself and your family from family violence.

How we help

There are a number of ways our experienced Family Violence Lawyers can help you deal with family violence:

Applying for a Family Violence Intervention Order

We can help you apply for a Family Violence Intervention Order (commonly known as an IVO).  This can be issued by any Magistrate’s Court in Victoria. 

An IVO protects you from domestic violence by the perpetrator.  A standard order requires the perpetrator not to commit further violence, including while you are both living in the same home. It orders the perpetrator to stay away from you, including at your place of work, and to not contact you (except to make arrangements for the care of your children).

The Court can also order that the perpetrator leaves the home and does not return during the time that the order operates.  This requires the police to come to your house and escort them from the property, usually giving them only a few minutes notice to collect their belongings. The police can also issue family protection orders in emergency situations

Pre-Separation advice

If you are experiencing family violence perpetrated by your partner or spouse and you are considering leaving the relationship, we recommend you plan carefully before doing or saying anything.  

Our family law team can offer you practical pre-separation advice based on our many years of experience helping people dealing with domestic violence. 

Negotiating Separation

If you decide to leave your partner, we can then help you successfully navigate the legal process of separating from your partner including making agreements about the division of your financial assets, child custody and maintenance.

You can learn more about family violence and separation in our Helpful Guide to Successfully Navigating Separation and Divorce.

If you are separating from your partner, download our free separation guide for more helpful info!

1. Meet with us

If you are experiencing domestic violence, we recommend you organise a confidential meeting with a lawyer from our Family Law team, led by partner, St John Heath.

At this meeting, we will: 

  • talk about your personal situation and experience with domestic violence
  • explain the process associated with applying for an IVO, the implications and provide advice on completing the application
  • discuss other kinds of support and counselling that may benefit your family
  • offer advice on the best way to approach separating from your partner or spouse if they are the person perpetrating the violence against you. 

Our compassionate, supportive approach and extensive experience helping people from all walks of life deal with domestic violence issues are the reasons our clients choose us for this important work.  This meeting will cost $495 (inclusive of GST).

2. Prepare a cost-estimate

Based on the information gathered at our first meeting, we’ll prepare a cost-estimate which clearly explains our recommended approach and the anticipated costs of appointing us.

This cost-estimate is based on our many years of experience undertaking this type of work. We pride ourselves on working as quickly and as efficiently as possible to keep your costs down. But we are not going to cut corners. Our focus is on looking after you. 

3. Implement agreed approach

If you are happy with our estimate, we then proceed with implementing the  approach that we have agreed.

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Good morning Charlie, I'd like to thank you and your team for your continued support and professional approach during what amounts to be a tough time.

Robert

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Thank you so much Ruby for your support. I have had no problem with recommending you and the firm to others during our time together and will continue to do so in the future.

Stephen

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Just wanted to say big thank for everything over the last few months. Your support has been fantastic, I’ve felt heard and respected through the entire process. So relieved to finally be able to close that chapter.

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Shelley was very easy to deal with, and always had the answer for any questions or queries we had.

Daniel & Kiera

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Ruby was courteous and professional during the entire will process. Ruby took the time to understand our life situation and have a few laughs during the process. We thoroughly enjoyed Ruby’s approach of being professional but not stale and dull.

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Leigh

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Thanks Charlie. Your friendly manner, responsiveness and professionalism was much appreciated.

Rose

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Thank you again for your very compassionate and professional handling of the signing. It's not easy by any means but you are making it so much better for us.

Noah

Watsonia

“Thank you St John for your great work and professionalism in finalising my divorce. It was great and after so many years it has taken to get to this place, it is still quite unbelievable that it has now been finished.”

Ava

Heidelberg

Everything gets sorted so quickly and everyone is so friendly.”

Pauline

Toorak

Suzanna and Shelley, acknowledged and thank you sincerely for all you have done, not only over the last few months for settlement, but also over the past two years….Your professionalism, thoroughness and exceptional communication has been deeply appreciated especially given I have been overseas for 80% of this process. Wishing you continued success in your business. I’m proud to say my lawyers and conveyancers are Tonkin Legal Group.

Mark

Fitzroy North

Hi Charlie, a word of thanks for the assistance and guidance provided by Tonkin Legal and in particular by yourself in settling my mother’s estate, throughout drawn out [to me] processes over the past two years. Your commitment and persistence in working through those processes on our behalf is truly appreciated.

Lindsay

Melbourne

What I have experienced with Tonkin is the care and thoughtfulness you demonstrate to clients, and the reason why I will keep coming back and why clients will refer you to new clients, as they know they will be in good hands.

Matt

Beaumaris

I want to express my heartfelt gratitude for all the hard work and dedication you've all put in, especially given the tight deadline. No amount of words can ever express my gratitude and my appreciation but I will never ever forget this and all the hard work that you ladies put in!

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Our Team

St John Heath

Partner - Accredited Specialist in Family Law

St John Heath is a Partner at Tonkin Legal Group and a leading Family Lawyer in Victoria.

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Ruby Heath

Partner

Ruby Heath is a Partner at Tonkin Legal Group.

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Charlie Robinson

Partner

Charlie Robinson is a Partner at Tonkin Legal Group.

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Ash Soklevski

Lawyer

Ash is currently working as a Lawyer in our Wills and Estates & Family Law teams.

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We couldn’t have asked for a better legal team when recommended by a family member to go to Tonkin Legal group to do our Estate Planning – Wills and Power of Attorneys after encountering a hard time dealing with not so professional legal team. Ash Soklevski, the dedicated and compassionate lawyer with her excellent communication skills together with her well organised, professional legal team helped us throughout the process and our documents were done in no time. From the word go, every information and cost were provided to us transparently and at the meeting Ash was so easy and amazing, wearing a genuine smile, explaining everything a lay person can understand. She did a fantastic job as our Wills and Power of Attorneys totally reflects all our wishes. So, we would like to take this opportunity to thank Ash and her team for all their assistance and highly recommend anyone who are planning to do their Estate Planning should visit Tonkin Legal Group website as a starting point.
Shelley has been incredible and we thoroughly appreciated her diligence & guidance throughout our process - both the selling & buying side of things. We would highly recommend her and Tonkin Legal Group for conveyancing. Thank you again!
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I will use this firm again in the future.
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A Helpful Guide to Successfully Navigating Separation and Divorce

Are you in the process of separating or divorcing? Our free guide to navigating separation and divorce is here to answer your questions!

If you are separating from your partner, download our free separation guide for more helpful info!